All right! So, now that most of my friends are in a serious relationship, I am left to fend for myself in the beautiful lesbian Wonderland of l-o-v-e and new friendships. Of course, once in a serious relationship, women in general tend to surrender to l-o-v-e, devote all their time to the loved one and waive some friendships aside until the l-o-v-e bubble bursts or for the very least deflates a bit. I’ve done it myself! I am guilty of such “sin”! BUT, hopefully, I have learned from my latest experience: friends don’t disappear just because you’re in love! You just get blindsided! And I, for once, won’t let it happen again! Smack me if I do!!!
Meanwhile… Ally is off to discover the peculiar world of Lesbian Wonderland. Not as innocent as Alice, I still feel awfully out of place in this lesbian lalaland! I’ve been swimming in the lesbian world for what seems ages now but still, it sometimes baffles me. All this diversity and modern relationships leave me flabbergasted. All this being said, I decided to do what most women do to find a soul mate; I opened a profile on the dating website www.reseaucontact.com . Since then, I’ve receive some pretty decent invitations… or so I thought! The idea is to create a network that will eventually lead me to THE woman for me. This means meeting women from the “reseau” with reasonable expectations and widen the lesbian network.
Here are a few basic rules of engagement that will surely get positive responses from the lesbians on the “reseau”.
Rules of engagement!
1. Use a nickname that you can use as e-mail address or sign your profile with your e-mail heading! Very important if you want to exchange e-mails without paying a fortune on the website. Most women use hotmail! Hint hint!
2. Be funny and light-hearted! It’s always a great catch! Women are looking for fun and simplicity. Anything complicated will make them run!
3. Always answer the invitations that are thrown at you!!!!! Whether it’s a positive or negative response, take the time to let others know where you stand! There’s nothing more frustrating than not knowing if they have read your invitation or not! And be polite about it!!!! Maybe I’m wrong but it’s a simple question of respect. Right?
4. When responding to an e-mail for the first time, be curious about the other person and volunteer some information about yourself! This means that the e-mail should be more than 3 sentences long!!!! Get the communication going!!!!!
5. Be clear about what you are looking for! Friendship? A roll in the hay? True love? If things change as you go along, that’s something else but at least you won’t be wasting other women’s time!
6. Finally but not least, THE picture! Should you post your picture or not!? It all depends on how comfortable you feel about having your picture plastered on the internet. If you decide to post your picture, it should be a picture of YOU! Not your best friend, your neighbour or just another pretty face you saw on the internet!!!! Do keep in mind that once your face is out there, you can never really take it back! That’s internet for you! Adding a picture to your profile will generate many many of responses, even those that might not have been solicited (men, couples or bisexuals). And remember, many women rely on the picture to get a gist of your personality... b
So if l-o-v-e comes knocking at my door on the "reseau", then so be it! If not, there is always a possibility to make new friends. One thing is for sure, one cannot avoid all expectations on this dating service especially when a cyber connection develops… it is easy to get your hopes up but true l-o-v-e goes beyond the cyber picture we portrait of ourselves and the image we get from others. Some encounters can be deceiving others disappointing but keeping in mind that it is all for the sake of true l-o-v-e makes everything worthwhile. As the saying goes… you can never have too many friends, can you?
Ally L.