“There is something to be said about holding off on something...”
Words of wisdom that may come as an old fashion lesson of morality. With this free-and-easy need to consume every new product on the market, people have turned to the same way of using up even the most important aspect of human behaviour: how to relate to others. Who would have though that relationships themselves would become as quickly consumed and disposed of as any new marketable product available. Society has created oblivious consumers for the mare idea of making a buck. And the sometimes innocent and unsuspecting minds have transferred that disposable habit to their friendships and relationships all around.
I have often referred to it as the “fast food amoureux” or “fast-food relationships”. Girlfriends/boyfriends have become as disposable assets as the ones bought and/or sold on Wall Street. They are expendable and substituted for another version of the same unhealthy pattern. All that for what? A roll in the hay? Avoiding feeling the loneliness that sometimes consumes us all at some point? Something to think about I suppose but being single for a long while gave me the perspectives I needed to put those patterns into the light. Jumping from one relationship to the next may have been what I wanted but not quite what I needed…
And it is true to say that putting off a mesmerising moment (whether it be a first kiss, a first touch or a first night of pure infatuation) brings a relationship to an entire new level of appreciation. It allows for people to actually get to know each other, connect personally / emotionally before rushing into any kind of relationship. As someone has recently said; the experience is enhanced, senses are heightened, and the craving allows for every subtlety to be… exquisite...
Lovely... indeed. ;)
Ally L.